I wanted to write a quick post as a follow up of my last one, which very understandably riled up a few people. I've had a few days to ponder over the appointments I had, and I do feel that I need to (or at least want to) reiterate and/or clarify that I passionately disagree with the views of my non-Western doctors. I by no means want it to come across that I believe that IVF kids aren't healthy and perfect. They are no different from the general population. In fact, as S from An Offering of Love pointed out, they could potentially be healthier because of the pre-conception and prenatal care and because they have parents who want them so much.
I didn't take offense to the comments at all. In fact, if anything, they've made me feel as though I'm not overreacting to the nonsense that I got fed earlier this week. And it is nonsense. And it's been making me mad and madder and madder than that. If I do continue to see these docs, I think I may have to do so for non-pregnancy related issues (which is why I started seeing them) and if they decide to feed me their opinions on IVF, I'm just going to have to be strong enough to say that I do not want to hear them.
Devon and I had a good talk about it tonight and I just let all of my frustrations and fears out and she was really good about reminding me of the fact that it is our choice and WE know the truth and the science behind the outcomes of IVF kids. [I work in a child health research institute for God's sake, so I really did spend the entire week reading clinical studies, and the only thing I found that has been proven is that singleton IVF babies can have a lower birth rate that singleton naturally conceived babies... and not even to the point where it's a health concern].
Maybe it won't come to IVF and this next IUI will work (I'm still waiting to bleed), but if we do go to IVF, we're not going to think twice about it. My body, our choice.
Thank you also for your comments about the elevated prolactin. I spoke with my nurse and picked up a req today for more blood work, which I'll do tomorrow morning, so we'll get a better sense. I'm looking for some Chasteberry stuff and will get going on that too.
Anyway, please know that I appreciated all of your comments and thanks for reading this follow up.
Sometimes, people (in this case, my doctors) suck and should keep their opinions to themselves...