I'm hoping that I can work with a midwife through this pregnancy, but I'm not sure I'd be accepted based on my health history.
I called one of the very highly reviewed midwifery groups in town several days after our BFP. It took them a week to return my first phone call to ask me one question, which I answered when I called back (I was in a meeting when they called). That was more than a week and a half ago and I haven't heard back. I have followed up every two days. On Friday, I left a message saying "Could you let me know either way whether a midwife would be able to see me, because if it's a no, I'm going to have to look somewhere else." Nothing. No call back, no nothing.
So, yesterday we started looking somewhere else and found something that really clicked. We submitted the intake form last night and I got a call today. Of course, because I'm "further into my pregnancy" (at 8 wks!) I may not be able to get the midwives that I requested (I asked for them because they said they work specifically with queer women), but I would be able to see someone. I will have an appointment set up by the end of this week. It is both a midwifery clinic and a program for new mom groups, yoga classes, prenatal classes, info sessions, workshops and a library. It sounds awesome.
If the midwives do choose not to work with me because of my preexisting condition, I'm hoping that they will refer me to an OBGYN, because I don't know where to start.
I still haven't heard back from my reproductive psychiatrist either. Because of the time that lapsed since I saw her last (due to how long it took to get pregnant), I had to get another referral, so have to go through the process again. I really need her guidance on all my meds right now. Although what I'm currently taking is working for my heath, and she's happy with the levels I'm on for baby's health, it's one thing talking with her about "in theory" and another "in reality". It's now my reality and I need some help.
In all honesty, I'm feeling kind of unprepared and unsupported in the healthcare sense of all of this. I don't like my family doctor and don't plan to use her through this pregnancy, so it's just me and Devon right now. I see my regular psychiatrist every two weeks, which is awesome, but he's a bit clueless on the reproductive front. My naturopath is great too, but says stuff that I don't really agree with and am not comfortable doing (have some raw beef! raw eggs are great too!).
Essentially, I don't feel like I have a team backing me up yet. I need a team. Even if nobody sees me until the second trimester... I just need to know that I won't be alone through all of this. (We also haven't found a place to live yet, so I'm feeling extra unsettled).
I love Canada and its public healthcare system, but there are some downfalls to always needing referrals and the ridiculous waitlists involved. I do, however, have an appointment on June 15th to go over the ultrasound report with my RE, so if worst comes to worst, I'll ask him for a referral to an OB and start from there.
I imagine the clinic would have booked that ultrasound follow-up appointment sooner if they'd found something wrong???