tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5081635647446244280.post2112251616351291282..comments2023-08-02T08:52:30.837-07:00Comments on Crazy Lesbian Mom: Appointment MADE!Lexhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08648625030466457125noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5081635647446244280.post-16282476940019488912011-03-11T08:43:29.082-08:002011-03-11T08:43:29.082-08:00We have seen two female REs. The first, meh. We di...We have seen two female REs. The first, meh. We didn't love her, but her male partners who happened to be on call to perform our IUIs were even worse. I found both of them to be horribly paternalistic and they, more than the original RE, were the reason we switched practices.<br /><br />Our second female RE was amazing, but then we also liked male partner who performed one of our embryo transfers.<br /><br />I don't think all male doctors are patriarchal penis people (an old term from college activist days popped back into my head), but I just think the chances are higher because of the way men are socialized. With the exception of my dentist (who who talks too much), all my doctors are female. I just feel more comfortable around women.<br /><br />Ultimately, though, what matters is the individual, not the gender.Pomegranatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03269172833468901068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5081635647446244280.post-20354952528769524542011-03-10T12:34:35.257-08:002011-03-10T12:34:35.257-08:00We had a female RE, but she was out of the office ...We had a female RE, but she was out of the office one day when we needed an IUI done. We were seen instead by the male doctor who was totally nice and gentle. I say go for it.Strawberryhttp://1invermillion.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5081635647446244280.post-42264266241573606632011-03-10T11:15:04.292-08:002011-03-10T11:15:04.292-08:00we saw a male RE and *loved* him. i wouldn't h...we saw a male RE and *loved* him. i wouldn't have traded him for any of the female docs in the practice. and, like one of the pp'ers said, it is the nurses that do all of the ultrasounds and iuis. the only procedures he did on us were hydrosonograms, hsgs, and IVF. good luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5081635647446244280.post-48124462520857919752011-03-10T11:10:40.292-08:002011-03-10T11:10:40.292-08:00I say see the "man" as it gets you in th...I say see the "man" as it gets you in the door and then I am sure switching is allowed. So exciting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5081635647446244280.post-41804337796054840382011-03-10T11:05:37.121-08:002011-03-10T11:05:37.121-08:00We waited for the woman, but only because it fit o...We waited for the woman, but only because it fit our vacation plans (her first appointment was the day we got back) and because she had been the one specifically recommended to us. I've had male drs before and I think the personality matters a lot more than their gender--honestly, it's strange having anyone that all up in your business if you aren't dating, so whether they have matching parts shouldn't make much difference, i don't think.Isahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16257850313625650928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5081635647446244280.post-38552909448906762042011-03-10T10:46:35.660-08:002011-03-10T10:46:35.660-08:00I would say meet with the male doc, and base your ...I would say meet with the male doc, and base your decision on whether or not you feel comfortable with him.<br /><br />We were against a male doc in the beginning - and our doc was only a "back up" to our midwife. After she encouraged us to meet with her top choice, who happened to be male, we were ecstatic. His manner and approach were a perfect fit for us. And since we ended up having to transport to the hospital, he was the one who handled the actual delivery, with our midwife there in more of a doula capacity. We were in very good hands, and had a wonderful experience.<br /><br />So, yeah, do what makes you comfortable, and don't rule someone out solely on gender. Especially since that "desperation" you feel is momentum, and energy, good things to seize upon! My two cents and then some. :)Nataliehttp://www.rockpapershutup.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5081635647446244280.post-15145983919730645992011-03-10T10:14:12.764-08:002011-03-10T10:14:12.764-08:00Can you BEGIN seeing the male doc and be put on a ...Can you BEGIN seeing the male doc and be put on a wait list to get in to a female one when a slot opens? That way you don't have to wait, can have a doc you want (eventually) and may actually get to like the male doc. Good luck, with whatever you choose!CJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04162019571877185075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5081635647446244280.post-64331931055261435162011-03-10T10:09:10.070-08:002011-03-10T10:09:10.070-08:00So we have a female doctor, but I was surprised to...So we have a female doctor, but I was surprised to find out that the doctor isn't the one that does the IUIs anyway. The doctor makes the decisions as far as what they recommend your next step to be, but the nurses actually do the procedure. I'm not sure if that's normal or not, but it's the way it's done here.abmayfieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06074001848829205055noreply@blogger.com